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My Cell Phone

Here’s the issue, plain and simple. I own a Samsung, Galaxy S-6. Is this the phone I wanted? No. Do I need this fancy phone with dozens of apps? No. Do I talk to it? No. Do I want to? No. OK, you’re thinking – then why the heck (he–) did you buy it? Answer: Sexy Grandpa! Yes, Sexy Grandpa!

HE decided that I was living in the dark ages with my flip phone. I was fine with it. Well, when it died, and it did, we went to Verizon together to consider the options. And, a flip phone was not one of them! The sales clerk informed me that I would love the new technology and that I’d never look back. In fact, she reassured me that once I got used to all the bells and whistles, I’d wonder why I waited so long. Well, as of now, nothing she ‘predicted’ has happened! I find I use this fancy equipment mostly for a few reasons – email, phone calls, contact list, the time, occasional website visits and fitbit stats! I forget to post dates in the calendar. I’ve yet to check weather or traffic on my phone. And, all the apps with all the games and convenient ‘data’ available with a tap on the screen simply is of no interest. All the icons on the ‘home page’ actually overwhelm me.

I guess my resistance also is a reflection of what I see Sexy Grandpa doing. If he’s not checking sports scores, texting his son (none of the kids call anymore), opening emails when he hears a ding noise or taking to Siri, we actually might be doing something together. I find the modern phone an intrusion. Sexy Grandpa’s connections seems so often to replace our real time TOGETHER with what’s going on with his iPhone. Who cares? Why is this immediacy to secure information important? Why can’t checking in on a phone wait?

And, of course, my husband is in the majority. Cell phone activity seems to consume owners everywhere – gym, restaurants, walking on the street, movie theaters and really any time someone is out and about. Am I being resistant? Am I choosing to not get sucked into the very thing I find annoying when I view others always on their phones? Do I not have a ‘need to know’ by always plugging in when the need arises? Have I ever missed a birthday, appointment or any scheduled event? (Not that I’m aware of!)

Believe me, the phone is convenient and I wear it when I’m away from home. Am I attached? No. Am I content with limited use? Yes. Do I miss my flip phone? No. That doesn’t mean I’m thrilled with this purchase. It simply means that my Samsung is a phone. It is not my life or my life line. As long as I can connect when I need to, I’m fine. Maybe I am in the minority. At my age, I suspect many of my generation find current technology overwhelming as well. If not, oh, well. I smile when Papa Phil, aka, Sexy Grandpa, facetimes our grandkids. I’m glad when he finds an alternative route to a horrible traffic tie up. I’m happiest, however, when his phone is nowhere in sight and it’s just the two of us! So, that’s the story! Stay tuned.   We’re counting on you to keep us young at heart!

Sassy Grandma


The late Jim Rohn, a business philosopher, once said, “The major value in your life is not what you get. It’s what you become.”

Values give us a “moral” compass. The Western value system is founded upon certain clear principles, which include fairness, honesty, truth, integrity, freedom, respect for others, equality and justice. Our political values include freedom of speech, equal justice before the law and democratic rights. Qualities like compassion, humility, tolerance and forgiveness also resonate within our value system.

You are most authentic and most alive when you reflect on and talk about what you value—that which has real meaning for you. You might say these are the core values that form the essence of your character. As such, they provide the rest of us with clues as to who you really are and what principles you stand for.

What you value may sometimes include the ordinary and often unnoticed, such as a beautiful sunset, a barefoot walk on wet grass, lovers holding hands, the soft skin of a newborn baby, blooming flowers and trees, and stimulating conversation and, of course, making love to Grandma.

Values also reflect the importance we impart to issues of principle. At the deepest level, they are issues over which you may give up your life rather than compromise. On the surface, however, they represent issues that you are most likely to get into arguments over, or even lose your job over.

When we live in harmony with our values, we tend to be happier and more content. Conversely, when we live our lives contrary to our basic values, we begin to experience dissatisfaction, depression and disillusionment. Each individual has his or her own value system. What is important to me may not be important to you. Either way, it is essential that we live our lives congruent with what we value.

I value and cherish my family, my relationships and of course my special relationship and love for Grandma. What do you value?

Stay in Touch…Sexy Grandpa


From the minute we enter the world we look for approval.

We expect it from our parents, grandparents, family and friends. As we become toddlers, we look for approval from our siblings and our playmates. As pre-teens, we want approval from our teachers, coaches, and everyone else. Throughout our difficult and challenging teen years we only want approval from our peers. During this stage we aren’t interested in what our parents or family think.

Suddenly, it happens. We become young adults. All of a sudden everyone wants to approve us. We get flooded with mail pre-approving us for almost everything. We are pre-approved for every credit card

imaginable. We get pre-approved for auto loans and home mortgages. We are even pre-approved for life insurance with no questions asked and no physical examination required!

All this pre-approval got me thinking. Have you ever been pre-approved for good health, happiness, great relationships, financial security, or success?

The fact is, in life there are many areas where pre-approval is not possible. You can’t be pre-approved for good health unless you make good choices. This means no smoking, choosing to monitor your eating habits, and a regular schedule of exercise.

What about happiness? Do you know anyone who has been pre-approved for happiness? You can’t buy happiness at your local shopping mall. It can’t be prescribed by your primary care physician. Happiness will not show up on your doorstep neatly wrapped in a UPS package. Happiness is found within you and is created by you.

Great relationships are built on respect and trust which each person earns. A successful marriage is built on mutual respect, honesty, commitment, intimacy, and shared goals and desires. No pre-approval possible.

Financial security is a choice we make. Check out your economic well being. Are you living from paycheck to paycheck? Are you drowning in credit card debt? Plan for the future and begin to pay yourself first. Only you can pre-approve yourself for financial security.

What about success? No one other than you can pre-approve yourself for success. Success takes work. It is a mixture of desire, energy, attitude, courage, risk, imagination and vision. It is a reflection of your belief system. An unstoppable belief in yourself is the only way you can pre-approve yourself for success.

As we continue to journey through this New Year with new resolutions, new goals and renewed hope for the future, I’d like to pre-approve you for good health, prosperity and continuing happiness.

Stay Tuned…Sexy Grandpa