“Sexual energy…is more a function of health than age.”

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Pre-Approved

From the minute we enter the world we look for approval.

We expect it from our parents, grandparents, family and friends. As we become toddlers, we look for approval from our siblings and our playmates. As pre-teens, we want approval from our teachers, coaches, and everyone else. Throughout our difficult and challenging teen years we only want approval from our peers. During this stage we aren’t interested in what our parents or family think.

Suddenly, it happens. We become young adults. All of a sudden everyone wants to approve us. We get flooded with mail pre-approving us for almost everything. We are pre-approved for every credit card

imaginable. We get pre-approved for auto loans and home mortgages. We are even pre-approved for life insurance with no questions asked and no physical examination required!

All this pre-approval got me thinking. Have you ever been pre-approved for good health, happiness, great relationships, financial security, or success?

The fact is, in life there are many areas where pre-approval is not possible. You can’t be pre-approved for good health unless you make good choices. This means no smoking, choosing to monitor your eating habits, and a regular schedule of exercise.

What about happiness? Do you know anyone who has been pre-approved for happiness? You can’t buy happiness at your local shopping mall. It can’t be prescribed by your primary care physician. Happiness will not show up on your doorstep neatly wrapped in a UPS package. Happiness is found within you and is created by you.

Great relationships are built on respect and trust which each person earns. A successful marriage is built on mutual respect, honesty, commitment, intimacy, and shared goals and desires. No pre-approval possible.

Financial security is a choice we make. Check out your economic well being. Are you living from paycheck to paycheck? Are you drowning in credit card debt? Plan for the future and begin to pay yourself first. Only you can pre-approve yourself for financial security.

What about success? No one other than you can pre-approve yourself for success. Success takes work. It is a mixture of desire, energy, attitude, courage, risk, imagination and vision. It is a reflection of your belief system. An unstoppable belief in yourself is the only way you can pre-approve yourself for success.

As we continue to journey through this New Year with new resolutions, new goals and renewed hope for the future, I’d like to pre-approve you for good health, prosperity and continuing happiness.

Stay Tuned…Sexy Grandpa

Television

Lately I’ve been getting some heat from Sassy Grandma because I’ve been watching so much TV. Well, we’re almost at the end of college football season and well into the NFL and beginning the PGA season so I suspect that trend will continue.

One particular evening, while engaged in meaningful conversation with grandma, she casually asked, “Honey, why do you spend so much time watching television.” It was a fair question and immediately plunged me into deep thought. After several seconds I replied, “Sweetheart, I do my best thinking in front of a wide screen TV.” She stared at me with a bewildered look on her face. I also tried to convince her that watching television allows me to spend more time with myself in an effort to better understand myself so that I could better understand her. Now she was totally confused.

She was under the false impression that I actually watch a program from beginning to end. Nothing is further from the truth. My “can’t live without” remote control should really be tagged the Random Remote Control. I simply randomly surf the channels looking for a reason to randomly surf the channels. This activity further illustrates my thinking process. I obviously believe there is something more exciting on a channel I am not watching. If I were honest, I would admit that, for the most part, I already know the outcome of the game or the conclusion of the movie I have already seen five or six times.

Maybe we will begin to understand why we’re so hung up on watching sports, sex, and action movies. We find ourselves living vicariously through our TV heroes. Admit it! We all want to live a James Bond life, be a quarterback facing a game winning opportunity, or simply be Tiger Woods while he was still winning major tournaments. It’s not going to happen. Not from the couch or the EZ boy recliner.

Stay in Touch…Sexy Grandpa

 

Competing for Steps

Sassy Grandma wears a Fitbit. It’s the tiny one that fits in a pocket, on a waist band or hooked to a baseball cap. I’m a big water aerobics fanatic, so I wear it on my UCONN cap and log 10K steps every morning for the hour I’m in the pool. That time is a great start to my daily goal.

Sexy Grandpa tried to talk me out of the purchase and not because of the cost. “You are already motivated” was his comment and couldn’t figure I could do anything else to increase my commitment to health. Well, once I began bragging, he decided to step up his game (maybe less time in front of t.v. watching sports?) and was willing to make the attempt to get to his daily goal also, 10K which is the same as mine.

Not long ago, we experienced a wonderful vacation/adventure during a cruise in Southeast Asia. Of course, both of us wore our Fitbits every day on land or sea. Let me tell you, when you log 15K+ steps in a day and on some outings close to 20K, THAT’S motivational. We had fun comparing stats and did more walking than we might ordinarily (skipping cabs or buses) to offset heavy cruise eating!

When we returned, we have continued to ‘compete’. Some days I’ll ask Sexy Grandpa to do an hour of mall walking with me. If his Fitbit number is low, I get a “Yeah, sure.” Can you imagine? He is actually willing to go up and down between levels just to keep up with my success?

It’s so easy to fall into a rut. I suspect the same thing every day seems to be the norm for most couples. (and, sometimes for us as well.) Even this small change of behavior has enriched our lives. While I’m not willing to say Grandpa’s walking with me earns him benefits, I will go on record that he looks great, feels healthy and has increased his energy. Will leave the rest to your imagination.

Stay tuned. We’re counting on you to keep us young at heart!

Sassy Grandma